Yesterday I was helping Family who really needed a hand. I noticed many things that have been in my head for so long but wasn’t willing to ask such personal questions.
One being why have you given up being sexual? I sorta knew the answer. (No, not because I am Intuitive. Smarty Pants!) No pun intended.
Health reasons complicated the relationship in the bedroom so they just decided to let it go.
I am keeping things private for personal respect of the couple I speak of.
I had been told their sex life has always been phenomenal. I figured as such.
They didn’t get bored by not engaging, they actually became more intimate. They just vibrate, no pun intended, on a different level. They communicate differently.
Sex is an act to procreate and as many believe and act to enjoy. So many moral issues arise when sex is on the table. You can list a few, I’m sure.
Intimacy is not sex. Intimacy is spinning from a different place.
An intimate relationship is an interpersonal relationship that involves physical or emotional intimacy. Physical intimacy is characterized by romantic or passionate attachment or sexual activity. While the term intimate relationship commonly implies the inclusion of a sexual relationship, the term is also used as a euphemism for a relationship that is strictly sexual.
Intimate relationships play a central role in the overall human experience.[1] Humans have a general desire to belong and to love, which is usually satisfied within an intimate relationship.These relationships involve feelings of liking or loving one or more people, romance, physical or sexual attraction, sexual relationships, or emotional and personal support between the members. Intimate relationships allow a social network for people to form strong emotional attachments– There you have it;”Strong Emotional Attachments”.
There is a difference and that is why. Not every act of sex is intimate. In fact people find themselves just enjoying sex and not feeling an attachment other then physically. Some people feel they have to have a connection to be sexual.
Intimacy is by far not easy. When you are intimate from an emotional perspective you tend to be vulnerable. This opens the door for hurt. No one wants that.
I was involved with someone a long time ago who could never be intimate nor could open completely. After several long months of stepping back and waiting to see what he would do, I realized he did not understand that difference. He really never felt that he had to be intimate and it made him uncomfortable. That actually ended rather well and I was so much younger allowing me to not care so much but I did learn a thing or two.
If you are capable of just having some fun then be safe about it and have a blast. If you want more then you may want to wait and get the inside scoop.
When women form friendships with other women they can and often become very intimate. There is no overtone of romantic or sexual emotions. It is often based on a deep love and trust that is formed over time. I am blessed to have this with close friends.
In closing, remember it is about your own personal experience and what you desire as well as what are you willing to give? What are you willing to accept?
As always- Be safe, be real and honest with yourself. Know the difference between sex and intimacy. You can have both with one person. That is the ultimate goal for most people. The idea of sharing it all with someone is not such a bad thought after all. It is a personal choice.