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The Time is now

The last several months and really the last two years, we have lost many people that we love. We have lost pets as well.

We’ve watched people get married, have children create a life together. We’ve celebrated birthdays, holidays, and other special occasions. I am grateful for these moments because there are timeless, we cannot go back and redo them and we cannot capture them again. We only hold them in our hearts and keep them as pictures on our phones or in a photo album. Every time an event passes I look back and think I don’t know how that happened so quick I remember preparing for this and getting everybody together. Before you know it’s I

What’s left? The memories. the pictures.

Most of us, including myself, think that we have all the time in the world to say something, to do something, to fix something, to mend something, to prepare things because we feel we have time But time is precious and it doesn’t wait it doesn’t sit around and say OK. Are you ready now?

Even with that, none of us are ready for the time to go by so fast and it feels like the older we get the faster it goes by, at least that’s my perspective.

My best friends son had a baby today with his wife and what a beautiful little girl they have. Looking at the pictures made me cry happy tears but it also reminded me that I watched this young man grow up from a little boy and into a teenager, and now someone’s husband and a father to a beautiful child.

I was blessed to watch both my children grow up and be there every step of the way. Now married adults, living their lives with the people that they love. I was part of their celebration and their happiness.

I have to confess I have so many pictures that I had printed that I have two full albums of my children’s weddings. I still look and think I blinked and you both grew up.

What I have left is pictures and memories that I go over in my mind from time to time and I smile When I look at those pictures or I laugh when I see something that reminds me of my children.

I blinked my eyes and they were adults. It’s a strange feeling because I remember the moments of looking at them when they were born and saying how I couldn’t wait to spend all this time with them and to watch them grow up. They did, way too fast just like I did.

Time in itself is not always kind because it’s all you have and it goes by way too quickly and most people don’t understand they feel like they have all the time in the world. We don’t. We have now.

The last year in half has been a challenge for me personally. I’ve been very heavy hearted over a relationship with someone I love very much who means the world to me and no matter what I have done to try repair that relationship, own up and make amends , it’s strained to say the least. It’s really with two members of the family.

I don’t feel it will be repaired anytime soon, though I still have hope and like the parable of having faith the size of a mustard seed, I’m holding onto that.

I am willing to do whatever it takes to fix any problems so they can be resolved and a new relationship can grow between myself and these two family numbers.

A very long time ago, my father and his brother we’re not speaking for about 15 years until my uncle was diagnosed with cancer.

My father did come for his brother when we had to inform him. He spent as much time with him as he could throughout that after his diagnosis. Unfortunately, my uncle did pass. What I learned was something I always felt. Why did you take so long to make peace? Did it have to come to that?

You don’t have time, you have now you have the present! It’s called the present because it’s a gift. Make amends, be grateful, live in the now and understand time does fly. If you can forgive then try to do so. What would happen if that person was no longer here to talk to? Would you live in regret or be ok? That’s your personal story.

Is it worth not having the time now to make a better go of the people we love and care for?

I realize it’s hard to forgive and also we tend to let time go by not thinking much of it. I’m here to remind you now is the time.

My Grandfather used to say to me; love and respect me while I’m alive, not when I’m dead”.

That statement has never meant more to me then it does right now.

You cant bring back time once it’s passed.

For the two family members that I do love deeply and care for, I’m here praying to make amends. You both matter to me. Whether you understand this or not, I do care deeply and sincerely want a fresh start.

I hope this blog can open eyes and hearts to better and happy lives and relationships. We only have so much time.

William Shakespeare

You cannot do a kindness too soon, for you never know how soon it will be too late.

Ralph Waldo Emerson

With love,


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Just beautiful. Very well said. I hope that day will come soon. I pray that it does. You can't take things for granted..

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